7How To Take Immediate Control Of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical And Financial Destiny
Every one has dreams from very early childhood.. As the years roll by, all those ambitions and aspirations get relegated to the realm of improbable fantasy. They cease to seem like achievable reality.
Here A Robbin says .. you need to take responsibility for creating a life in accordance with your highest dreams and desires
How is it that people from humble beginnings and disadvantaged circumstances go on to great heights of achievement and how is that those from privileged backgrounds and with every opportunity for success end up leading lives of bitterness and frustration, often littered with broken relationships and chemical addictions
‘Nothing can resist the human will that will stake even its very existence on its stated purpose’
– Benjamin Disraeli.
Usually lack of satisfaction with current state of afffairs in life provides an emotional leverage to inspire them to act and change.
Usually lack of satisfaction with current state of afffairs in life provides an emotional leverage to inspire them to act and change.
Success comes to those individuals who were driven by compelling forces of willpower, desire and imagination making them to rise above painful circumstances and handicaps of poverty and lack of education and to seize control of their own destinies and transform their lives.
Setting goals is the primary step toward turning the invisible into the visible and the foundation for success...dreams with a deadline .. What do I need to be doing today, right now, that will contribute towards my desired outcome in say six months?...
• Write down – right now – four things you really need to do but have put off.
Are you a bit
over-weight? Is that smoker’s cough getting worse? Have you let a silly falling out come between
you and a valued friend?
over-weight? Is that smoker’s cough getting worse? Have you let a silly falling out come between
you and a valued friend?
• Then write the answers to these questions beside each:Why haven’t I acted yet? What pain
have I associated with such action in the past?
have I associated with such action in the past?
An honest answer will bring home the fact that
the thing holding you back has been that you link more pain or inconvenience with the action than
with inaction.
the thing holding you back has been that you link more pain or inconvenience with the action than
with inaction.
• Next, set down all the pleasure you’ve gained by adopting this negative course.
The immediate
pleasures of indulging in a cigarette or chocolate or one too many beers are obvious. The same
goes for avoiding a difficult task or painful conversation. Writing them down focuses your
attention on your target. Change comes with new goals – think of ways to get these, or better,
pleasures without the unwanted consequences.
pleasures of indulging in a cigarette or chocolate or one too many beers are obvious. The same
goes for avoiding a difficult task or painful conversation. Writing them down focuses your
attention on your target. Change comes with new goals – think of ways to get these, or better,
pleasures without the unwanted consequences.
• Now, write the cost of not changing.
Money, ill-health, death… perhaps it is a precious
relationship that will be lost or damaged forever if you don’t act. Add up the cost over the next
year, the next 10, the next 50. Consider the effects on your self-respect and your feelings about
your life during all those years to come.
relationship that will be lost or damaged forever if you don’t act. Add up the cost over the next
year, the next 10, the next 50. Consider the effects on your self-respect and your feelings about
your life during all those years to come.
• Finally, write down all the possible pleasures which could result from acting on these issues,
now!
now!
Make the list long and lavish. Allow it to get you worked up. Let it charge your emotions
with anticipation of all those benefits. Remember the benefits for others are at stake here, too.
Don’t be afraid to dream outside the limitations of your current achievement. The seeds of desire to achieve a specific goal
are signs of your inherent potential and capacity to do it. Then ‘carpe diem’ (seize the day)! Truly committed decisions are
the catalyst for turning dreams into reality.
The best thing about the truly tremendous power of decision is that each and every one of us already has it in our
possession. It is the giant asleep within us. We need only wake it to experience the thrill of exercising our unlimited power
to implement radical improvements in our lives.
And don’t be afraid of mistakes. Success grows directly from good judgement, judgement comes from experience and
experience is largely built of poor judgments! Whenever you try something and fail – and it will happen as sure as death
and taxes – don’t wast time commiserating or berating yourself. Instead ask: "What good can be salvaged from this? What
have I learned?’
When we aspire to our highest dreams or a set of goals that seem beyond our capacity to reach, when we demand of
ourselves actions that seem beyond our capabilities and outside the comfort zone of our normal mode of operating, any
number of self-limiting psychological variables will inevitably confront us. Your Master System includes all your core beliefs. It is comprised of all the conscious and unconscious rules by which you live, your values, your emotional responses, the habitual questions you ask, your references.
In motor racing, a driver who skids out of control is always tempted to look at the looming wall, barrier or ditch which
might easily claim his life. Yet a seasoned driver knows that the direction of his gaze can eerily determine the course that
the car will take. He knows it is imperative that he direct his gaze away from the wall and towards the road with every
ounce of his will. He must look only in the direction he wishes to go.
In a clear and committed focus on your goal, the ‘how’ will usually make itself apparent
‘If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and
this you have the power to revoke at any moment’ – Marcus Aurelius
Winners are people who challenge the belief barriers about what is possible – for themselves or for any human. They
realise these barriers are composed of nothing but belief and, by choosing instead to believe in themselves, go beyond
them to new heights.
All of our actions are dictated by an inevitable human desire to move toward pleasure and away from pain. Just what
each of us defines as pleasurable or painful is individual and relative, but we are all motivated to actions that increase
pleasure and minimise pain. Procrastination arises from the fear of more pain resulting from a course of action than from the discomfort or inconvenience of putting it off.
‘I conceive that pleasures are to be avoided if greater pain be the consequence, and pains to be coveted that will
terminate in greater pleasures’ – Michel de Montaigne
Associating maximum perceived pleasure with a desired outcome – and rewarding yourself amply along the way – will
speed your progress and make your journey infinitely more enjoyable. Always remember that the journey is at least as
important as the destination.
Our beliefs are like unquestioned commands and reference points. The philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer said that every truth moves through three stages: ‘First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Finally, it is accepted as self-evident’
‘Nothing splendid has ever been achieved, but by those who dared believe that something inside of themselves was superior to circumstance’ – Bruce Barton
‘Some men see things as they are and say ‘Why?’. I dream of things that never were, and say ‘Why not?"
– George Bernard Shaw
Try asking yourself the following empowering questions each evening as you review your day: • What did I learn today? • What did I achieve today? • What did I enjoy today? • What did I contribute today?
The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. Never lose a holy curiosity – Albert Einstein
Ten Negatives – Calls To Action • Discomfort • Guilt • Fear • Disappointment • Hurt • Loneliness • Anger • Inadequacy • Overload • Frustration
Ten Positives – The Power To Create Success • Love & Warmth • Curiosity • Appreciation & Gratitude • Vitality • Excitement & Passion • Flexibility • Determination • Confidence • Contribution • Cheerfulness
Every emotion you experience has a specific physiology linked to it – posture, breathing, patterns of movement, facial
expressions – habitual muscular patterns literally begin to dictate emotions. Slumping at your desk, for instance, can affect
your breathing and induce back aches, making you both more tired and more irritable – both translating as ‘less
productive’ – than you ought to be. A key to success is to create patterns of movement and posture that create confidence, a sense of strength, flexibility, power – and fun.
What is the purpose of life if not to be happy?...‘The great man is he that does not lose his child’s heart’ – Mencius
f a problem seems insurmountable, consider that we live in a galaxy that comprises several hundred thousand million stars, which in turn exists in a universe that contains several hundred thousand million galaxies. Consider the enormity of this grand cosmic design. Think of its magnitude. Now, how big is your problem?
are signs of your inherent potential and capacity to do it. Then ‘carpe diem’ (seize the day)! Truly committed decisions are
the catalyst for turning dreams into reality.
The best thing about the truly tremendous power of decision is that each and every one of us already has it in our
possession. It is the giant asleep within us. We need only wake it to experience the thrill of exercising our unlimited power
to implement radical improvements in our lives.
And don’t be afraid of mistakes. Success grows directly from good judgement, judgement comes from experience and
experience is largely built of poor judgments! Whenever you try something and fail – and it will happen as sure as death
and taxes – don’t wast time commiserating or berating yourself. Instead ask: "What good can be salvaged from this? What
have I learned?’
When we aspire to our highest dreams or a set of goals that seem beyond our capacity to reach, when we demand of
ourselves actions that seem beyond our capabilities and outside the comfort zone of our normal mode of operating, any
number of self-limiting psychological variables will inevitably confront us. Your Master System includes all your core beliefs. It is comprised of all the conscious and unconscious rules by which you live, your values, your emotional responses, the habitual questions you ask, your references.
In motor racing, a driver who skids out of control is always tempted to look at the looming wall, barrier or ditch which
might easily claim his life. Yet a seasoned driver knows that the direction of his gaze can eerily determine the course that
the car will take. He knows it is imperative that he direct his gaze away from the wall and towards the road with every
ounce of his will. He must look only in the direction he wishes to go.
In a clear and committed focus on your goal, the ‘how’ will usually make itself apparent
‘If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and
this you have the power to revoke at any moment’ – Marcus Aurelius
Winners are people who challenge the belief barriers about what is possible – for themselves or for any human. They
realise these barriers are composed of nothing but belief and, by choosing instead to believe in themselves, go beyond
them to new heights.
All of our actions are dictated by an inevitable human desire to move toward pleasure and away from pain. Just what
each of us defines as pleasurable or painful is individual and relative, but we are all motivated to actions that increase
pleasure and minimise pain. Procrastination arises from the fear of more pain resulting from a course of action than from the discomfort or inconvenience of putting it off.
‘I conceive that pleasures are to be avoided if greater pain be the consequence, and pains to be coveted that will
terminate in greater pleasures’ – Michel de Montaigne
Associating maximum perceived pleasure with a desired outcome – and rewarding yourself amply along the way – will
speed your progress and make your journey infinitely more enjoyable. Always remember that the journey is at least as
important as the destination.
Our beliefs are like unquestioned commands and reference points. The philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer said that every truth moves through three stages: ‘First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Finally, it is accepted as self-evident’
‘Nothing splendid has ever been achieved, but by those who dared believe that something inside of themselves was superior to circumstance’ – Bruce Barton
‘Some men see things as they are and say ‘Why?’. I dream of things that never were, and say ‘Why not?"
– George Bernard Shaw
Try asking yourself the following empowering questions each evening as you review your day: • What did I learn today? • What did I achieve today? • What did I enjoy today? • What did I contribute today?
The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. Never lose a holy curiosity – Albert Einstein
Ten Negatives – Calls To Action • Discomfort • Guilt • Fear • Disappointment • Hurt • Loneliness • Anger • Inadequacy • Overload • Frustration
Ten Positives – The Power To Create Success • Love & Warmth • Curiosity • Appreciation & Gratitude • Vitality • Excitement & Passion • Flexibility • Determination • Confidence • Contribution • Cheerfulness
Every emotion you experience has a specific physiology linked to it – posture, breathing, patterns of movement, facial
expressions – habitual muscular patterns literally begin to dictate emotions. Slumping at your desk, for instance, can affect
your breathing and induce back aches, making you both more tired and more irritable – both translating as ‘less
productive’ – than you ought to be. A key to success is to create patterns of movement and posture that create confidence, a sense of strength, flexibility, power – and fun.
What is the purpose of life if not to be happy?...‘The great man is he that does not lose his child’s heart’ – Mencius
f a problem seems insurmountable, consider that we live in a galaxy that comprises several hundred thousand million stars, which in turn exists in a universe that contains several hundred thousand million galaxies. Consider the enormity of this grand cosmic design. Think of its magnitude. Now, how big is your problem?
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