tajsateesh
1637

I second Simhan.
That will convey Vijay's concern for her AS WELL AS give her a chance to analyse for herself on the various options she has.
She's after all an adult now & should be able to make decisions herself to a large extent.
And I don't think anything mentioned by the members or Vijay in this thread has any content that should be the cause of worry or apprehension for her.......it's ALL well-meant & keeping her interest in mind.
Rgds,
TS

From India, Hyderabad
ilke_vijay
12

Dear Nashbramhall, Thanks for the suggestion. I have already informed her about posting thread on Cite.HR and also conveyed some of the messages posted by our members. Thanks once again. VIJAY
From United Arab Emirates, Ras Al Khaimah
V.Raghunathan
1330

Dear Mr Vijay,
You have answered most of the queries that were raised as the thread had progressed.
I hope you have responded to Mr.Jacob also seperately.
His name was suggested, since you wanted a senior member with a financial background.
This request was in your opening message.
Mr Jacob is great motivator and had personally confirmed to me about his writing to you.
V.Raghunathan

From India
mkandukuri
12

Dear Vijay,
I dont see it as her weakness on technics.....it is more on her being introvert and not able to mingle with people. Please make her go through public speaking course which would be couple of weeks. She needs to feel confident from within, rest will fall in place.

From India, Hyderabad
NK SUNDARAM
581

One major flaw in this forum is that the communication is always one-sided, in a large majority of the cases. The person who originally posted his or her query, does not even have the basic courtesy of acknowledging the various comments posted by people, who are otherwise busy with their own commitments. Still we take time off from our schedule and ensure that we share our opinion, thoughts and ideas so that the person who posted his or her query gets a variety of choices in front of him/her. Anyway, 'courtesy' is a word which is slowly vanishing from the earth and also from the English Dictionary !!!
From India
tajsateesh
1637

Hello Sundaram,

You are right.

However, the way I have been looking @ MY participation in this Forum is: There are 2 types of people....Takers & Givers.

Most of those who take time off from their busy schedules belong to the 'Givers' category & it's upto the Originators WHETHER to acknowledge the suggestions & MORE importantly, become 'Givers' too along the way.

The ONLY parameter I apply to my opinions & participation is follow what's said in the Gita--'Patra Daan' & 'Apatra daan'.......meaning 'deserving' & undeserving' Giving [be it suggestion, money, idea, opinion, etc, etc]. One of the MAIN reasons I begin my participation in any discussion/thread by asking queries is this.......the other being to get better clarity of the issue/situation AND the context. If you notice, so many new members want to know on ways to beat the Rules when it's inconvenient for him/her........be it absconding without getting hit, how to skip the Bond without paying a dime, how to punish the Company legally for his/her mistake & so on & so forth. There are others who ask innocuous queries [masking out the ACTUAL issue] & misuse the suggestions given.

The ONLY WAY the Seniors in this Forum can inculcate the habit among those who raise issues/queries with half-baked/incomplete inputs is to DESIST from giving suggestions right away. Once this becomes a habit for the likes of us, ONLY THEN will the habit of giving the FULL & TRUTHFUL details by thread initiators begin & continue.

Else, this topic will keep getting discussed, by those around then, even when CiteHR celebrates it's Centenary [seriously].

Had this been an Organization, one would have templates, formats, etc.....but in such public Forums, that's both tough & impractical.

Rgds,

TS

From India, Hyderabad
ilke_vijay
12

Dear Mr. Sundaram,

It is not correct that the communication is one sided and I do not have courtesy to even reply to the posting. I already tried to reply almost everyone's suggestions. Off course it is not possible to reply every member like how we chat in "what's app". I thanks to everyone who provided the valuable information. I posted 2 replies with sufficient explanation and situation but it is not correct to accuse anyone that the person doesn’t have courtesy to reply the members.

Instead of replying every post I preferred to wait for 3-4 postings together and reply them all in one post, which I am doing. There are always two sides for the coin. Secondly I am hardcore technical person who is a bit not very familiar with HR terms. So some of the postings are really tough for me to understand.

Mr. Raghunathan, my daughter already contacted Mr. Jacob and both of them in communication with each other. She also agreed to look for some personality development classes.

Regards to all.

VIJAY

From United Arab Emirates, Ras Al Khaimah
tajsateesh
1637

Hello Vijay,
I think you got the intent & content of Sundaram's posting all wrong.
He was referring to the general direction postings in this Forum have been going in the recent past.....and so was MY reply posting too.
It surely WASN'T directed @ you or your issue @ hand......looks like more of a unintended comm gap.
Rgds,
TS

From India, Hyderabad
ilke_vijay
12

Dear Mr. Tajsateesh,
Cite HR. is a nice platform for the people like me who are not basically from HR department. We all are in the forum to share the information, advise & knowledge and not to pin point an individual. We are not in a court where we need to give an explanation but the sentence "The person who originally posted his or her query, does not even have the basic courtesy of acknowledging the various comments posted by people, who are otherwise busy with their own commitments" is for sure not a general statement but pinpointing an individual.
It's request to everyone kindly do not stretch this subject anymore. I have respect for all the members who regularly post their valuable advices and want to keep the good terms with you all forever.
Best regards,
VIJAY

From United Arab Emirates, Ras Al Khaimah
NK SUNDARAM
581

Mr.. Vijay.... As Mr. Tajsateesh has correctly pointed out, it is my general opinion I was talking about and in particular about you. As a parent, I too fully understand the mental agony and turmoil you must be passing through... A girl not getting a proper job commensurate with here qualifications in this modern competitive world, is as good as she not getting married despite reaching the correct age. The concern is genuine. What we expected was a simple acknowledgement for having received the inputs (perhaps more than what you expected !). As they say, giving advice to others is the most easiest thing in this world. However, in a forum like this, which is full of professionals, the advice given will be based more on their knowledge, skills and experienced gained over the years. We do not give any off-the-cuff advice... like a remedy / cure for 'cold' !

I am happy that your daughter is on the right track and we wish her all success. These days, I understand the CA branches in various major cities conduct lot of soft skill training programmes like presentation skills (my son is a CA and I know it for certain !) to further enhance the soft skills of CAs. You can explore this as well.

Best wishes

From India
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