Four people you will meet in life
Life is the process of finding love; every person will need to find four people in their life.
First person is you, Second person is the one you love most, Third person is the one who loves you most, And the fourth is the one you spend the rest of your life with.
In life, firstly you will meet with the one you love most, and learn how love feels. Because you know how love feels, so you can find the person who loves you most. When you have experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, you will then know what it is you need most. Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.
Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person.
The one you love most does not love you. The one who loves you most is never the one you love most.
And the one you spend your life with is never the one you love most or the one who loves you most.
He is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.
Which person are you in other people's life?
No person will purposely have a change of heart.
At the point in time when he loves you, he really loves you. But when he doesn't love you anymore, he really doesn't love you anymore. When he loves you, he cannot pretend that he does not. The same goes for when he loves you no more; there's no way he can pretend he loves you.
When a person does not love you and wants to leave you, you must ask yourself if you still love him. If you also do not love him anymore, do not keep him just to save your pride. If you still love him, you should wish him happiness, and hope that he will be with the one he loves most, not stop him from it. If you stop him from finding true happiness with the one he loves, it shows you already don't love him. And if you don't love him, what rights do you have to blame him for a change of heart?
Love is not possessive. If you like the moon, you cannot just take it down and put it in your basin. But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him become a permanent memory in your life. If you really love a person, you must love him for what he is. Love him for his good points, and the bad. You cannot wish for him to become like what you like him to be just because you love him. If he cannot change to become what you like him to be, you do not love him anymore.
When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him. You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you. Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test. If the relationship is not strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate.
When two people are in love, they love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise?
Because they do not trust each other, they do not trust their lover. These swear and promises are useless. Till the sky falls, till the ocean dries, my love for you will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry. Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then?
Be careful when making promises; do not make promises that you cannot keep.
Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm in just saying it casually.
Remember, swearing by things that can never happen is the most touching!!
In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another. The one saying doesn't believe, the one listening also doesn't believe.
From India, Coimbatore
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746Life is the process of finding love; every person will need to find four people in their life.
First person is you, Second person is the one you love most, Third person is the one who loves you most, And the fourth is the one you spend the rest of your life with.
In life, firstly you will meet with the one you love most, and learn how love feels. Because you know how love feels, so you can find the person who loves you most. When you have experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, you will then know what it is you need most. Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.
Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person.
The one you love most does not love you. The one who loves you most is never the one you love most.
And the one you spend your life with is never the one you love most or the one who loves you most.
He is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.
Which person are you in other people's life?
No person will purposely have a change of heart.
At the point in time when he loves you, he really loves you. But when he doesn't love you anymore, he really doesn't love you anymore. When he loves you, he cannot pretend that he does not. The same goes for when he loves you no more; there's no way he can pretend he loves you.
When a person does not love you and wants to leave you, you must ask yourself if you still love him. If you also do not love him anymore, do not keep him just to save your pride. If you still love him, you should wish him happiness, and hope that he will be with the one he loves most, not stop him from it. If you stop him from finding true happiness with the one he loves, it shows you already don't love him. And if you don't love him, what rights do you have to blame him for a change of heart?
Love is not possessive. If you like the moon, you cannot just take it down and put it in your basin. But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him become a permanent memory in your life. If you really love a person, you must love him for what he is. Love him for his good points, and the bad. You cannot wish for him to become like what you like him to be just because you love him. If he cannot change to become what you like him to be, you do not love him anymore.
When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him. You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you. Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test. If the relationship is not strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate.
When two people are in love, they love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise?
Because they do not trust each other, they do not trust their lover. These swear and promises are useless. Till the sky falls, till the ocean dries, my love for you will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry. Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then?
Be careful when making promises; do not make promises that you cannot keep.
Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm in just saying it casually.
Remember, swearing by things that can never happen is the most touching!!
In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another. The one saying doesn't believe, the one listening also doesn't believe.
From India, Coimbatore
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Thank you for sharing. Wonderful words.
I had been through a difficult time. After 12 years of marriage, I found out that my husband was deeply in love with another woman. Although he had already ended this relationship by the time I discovered the truth, I was still devastated and struggling to accept this reality. I love my husband, and I know he truly loves the other woman. I made the decision to not hold onto him and let him go to her. However, he insisted that the past is behind him and chose to stay with me and our son. Now, three months have passed, and we are working on rebuilding our relationship, experiencing ups and downs. I find it hard to ignore the truth of his betrayal.
I feel so lost.
Holly
From China, Foshan
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I had been through a difficult time. After 12 years of marriage, I found out that my husband was deeply in love with another woman. Although he had already ended this relationship by the time I discovered the truth, I was still devastated and struggling to accept this reality. I love my husband, and I know he truly loves the other woman. I made the decision to not hold onto him and let him go to her. However, he insisted that the past is behind him and chose to stay with me and our son. Now, three months have passed, and we are working on rebuilding our relationship, experiencing ups and downs. I find it hard to ignore the truth of his betrayal.
I feel so lost.
Holly
From China, Foshan
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