Proposing to you girl friend is the most important thing in a man's life. This is a question that brings immense joy and excitement in your life. This moment is cherished all your life and therefore this moment has to be special. Now before you get down on one knee, read these dos and don'ts of proposing.
DO's:
Do Talk about Marriage
Before you propose, talk about the possibility of getting married. Make sure it's something that you both want.
Do make it a Surprise
Even though you have discussed marriage, the proposal itself should still be a surprise. Find a moment and a way that is special and she should not be expecting it. Remember it should be a surprise.
Do Find the Right Engagement Ring
Since wearing an engagement ring is a lifetime commitment, make sure it's the right style. If you think its difficult choosing the right ring yourself, you can also ask her mother or best friend to help choose the ring.
Do Take Elders Blessings
It is always better to take the consent of both the parents. Therefore before you pop the question, make sure that you have spoken to her and your parents about it.
Do Pick a Personal Spot
Think about your favorite romantic places -- choose a romantic spot to pop the question. Just make sure that it is a special spot and this is your personal moment.
Do Be Creative
Incorporate your personality, favorite things, foods etc. into the proposal. Make it memorable and something to cherish the rest of your lives.
Do Drop to one knee
It's not 1950, but there is something so charming and romantic about a man on one knee asking the love of his life to marry him. Even if you're not a traditional guy, it will add to the seriousness and lovingness of the proposal.
Do Tell Her Why You Want to Marry Her
Don't just utter those 4 little words, tell her why she's the one for you, what marriage means to you, and what your hopes for the future are. Make her feel special and great about the relationship and the future ahead.
DON'Ts:
Don't Make it Public
Please don't propose to her in a public place. Make it intimate and a personal thing. The moment belongs to you therefore this magical moment should be between just the two of you – after all, you've got the rest of your lives to tell other people about your marriage but you've only got one engagement moment.
Don't Propose on a holiday
Consider picking a day meaningful to your relationship, such as the anniversary of your first date. Your girlfriend wants her day to shine – don't propose on a holiday that can't be yours as a couple.
Don't Hide the Engagement Ring in Food
I hate to say it, (as I'm sure there are some readers who were planning to do just this) but hiding the engagement ring in food is a tired idea. It's been in a thousand movies and TV shows, and you won't win any points for creativity. Even worse, you may end your romantic proposal with a trip to the emergency room or the dentist.
Don't Do it in Front of Her Family
Its one thing to take blessings of her parents but don't make the mistake of proposing in their presence. Proposals in front of family have an added level of stress that you don't need. Take this moment to be just the two of you; don't worry, you can call everyone immediately afterwards.
Don't Propose if you are not sure
This is an important decision of your life. Therefore first think whether you are ready for marriage and responsibility and then propose to her. Also get to know what she feels too.
Don't Expect Her to say Yes Immediately
You're asking someone to spend the rest of their life with you – an extremely important decision. Just because you've asked, doesn't mean she is ready to say yes. If your sweetheart says maybe, take it in stride and give her some time to consider the proposal.
Deepali :lol:
From India, Chandigarh
10DO's:
Do Talk about Marriage
Before you propose, talk about the possibility of getting married. Make sure it's something that you both want.
Do make it a Surprise
Even though you have discussed marriage, the proposal itself should still be a surprise. Find a moment and a way that is special and she should not be expecting it. Remember it should be a surprise.
Do Find the Right Engagement Ring
Since wearing an engagement ring is a lifetime commitment, make sure it's the right style. If you think its difficult choosing the right ring yourself, you can also ask her mother or best friend to help choose the ring.
Do Take Elders Blessings
It is always better to take the consent of both the parents. Therefore before you pop the question, make sure that you have spoken to her and your parents about it.
Do Pick a Personal Spot
Think about your favorite romantic places -- choose a romantic spot to pop the question. Just make sure that it is a special spot and this is your personal moment.
Do Be Creative
Incorporate your personality, favorite things, foods etc. into the proposal. Make it memorable and something to cherish the rest of your lives.
Do Drop to one knee
It's not 1950, but there is something so charming and romantic about a man on one knee asking the love of his life to marry him. Even if you're not a traditional guy, it will add to the seriousness and lovingness of the proposal.
Do Tell Her Why You Want to Marry Her
Don't just utter those 4 little words, tell her why she's the one for you, what marriage means to you, and what your hopes for the future are. Make her feel special and great about the relationship and the future ahead.
DON'Ts:
Don't Make it Public
Please don't propose to her in a public place. Make it intimate and a personal thing. The moment belongs to you therefore this magical moment should be between just the two of you – after all, you've got the rest of your lives to tell other people about your marriage but you've only got one engagement moment.
Don't Propose on a holiday
Consider picking a day meaningful to your relationship, such as the anniversary of your first date. Your girlfriend wants her day to shine – don't propose on a holiday that can't be yours as a couple.
Don't Hide the Engagement Ring in Food
I hate to say it, (as I'm sure there are some readers who were planning to do just this) but hiding the engagement ring in food is a tired idea. It's been in a thousand movies and TV shows, and you won't win any points for creativity. Even worse, you may end your romantic proposal with a trip to the emergency room or the dentist.
Don't Do it in Front of Her Family
Its one thing to take blessings of her parents but don't make the mistake of proposing in their presence. Proposals in front of family have an added level of stress that you don't need. Take this moment to be just the two of you; don't worry, you can call everyone immediately afterwards.
Don't Propose if you are not sure
This is an important decision of your life. Therefore first think whether you are ready for marriage and responsibility and then propose to her. Also get to know what she feels too.
Don't Expect Her to say Yes Immediately
You're asking someone to spend the rest of their life with you – an extremely important decision. Just because you've asked, doesn't mean she is ready to say yes. If your sweetheart says maybe, take it in stride and give her some time to consider the proposal.
Deepali :lol:
From India, Chandigarh
nw do you really think proposing a grl cums under the category of humour....?? :?: :?: :?: Chandni
From India, Calcutta
From India, Calcutta
46 Ideas on How to Propose Marriage
1. Do it the old fashioned way. Get down on one knee with a rose clenched in your teeth and the ring in your hand.
2. Have a waiter bring you her favorite dessert with the ring inside of it. (Be careful that she doesn't swallow it).
3. Take her/him to the theatre and ask the stage manager if he will allow you to come up on stage and propose after the final curtain.
4. Show up at her/his office in the middle of the afternoon armed with a red rose, a bottle of champagne and a glass with the ring in it.
5. Write "Will you marry me (name)" in chalk on the street out side your house or apartment in big letters.
6. Call your local radio station and get them to pop the question for you over the air waves at a time that you know she/he will be listening. Then dedicate a song to her/him.
7. Gather all your friends and family for drinks either at a favorite restaurant or your home and pop the question in front of everyone.
8. Gather friends and family outside his/her home waving banners with the words will you marry me on them and you standing in front of them all on one knee holding the ring. (Make sure that they get the right house).
9. Send a singing telegram to her/his workplace. Then walk in just after the song is finished and pop the question.
10. Create a web page all about your life together. Photos, places that mean a lot to you both. Send him/her the web address and wait for his/her reply and when accepted you can then send the address to friends and family.
11. Wrap a large box and fill with smaller boxes all wrapped the last box that she will come to will be the smallest with the ring inside. Or alternatively wrap a large box and fill with those tiny foam pieces and let her look for the small box inside.
12. Cut the bottom out of a very large box then wrap it. Take it to her place of work and ask one of her colleague's to go get her telling her that there is a large parcel for her. Meanwhile you climb in from the bottom and when she unwraps it jump out with the ring in hand and ask her to make an honest man of you.
13. Take her/him away for the weekend and when you are on your last day pop the question.
14. Get up extra early and prepare her/him breakfast in bed. Cook his/her favorite meal with a red rose and a bottle of champagne and a kiss to wake him/her and then declare your love.
15. Scatter rose petals all over her bed and put the gift wrapped ring in the center. Tell her that you bought her a gift to show how much you love her. When she opens it tell her that you want to spend the rest of your life with her.
16. Cook your loved one a romantic meal and place a note around the napkin like it is a napkin holder asking her/him to marry you. Or slip the napkin (use fabric ones not paper!) through the ring, when she goes to put her napkin in her lap she will find the ring.
17. Give your her a foot massage and place the ring on her little toe.
18. Blindfold him/her and take them to the place where you first met each other. Take along a bottle of champagne and two glasses to celebrate after you propose.
19. Bake him/her a cake and write on top of it Will you marry me?
20. Take out a full page ad in a paper that you know your loved one reads regularly and be close by when he/she reads it.
21. Buy your loved one a watch and have it inscribed "marry me."
22. Pour her a glass of wine with the ring in the bottom of it and when she drinks the wine she will find the ring.
23. Go for a picnic together then pop the question.
24. Propose at Christmas by hanging the ring in it's box from on the tree as if it was an ornament. Tell her to find the new special ornament you just purchased for her.
25. If you're dining in a fancy restaurant, ask the waiter/waitress to write, "Will you marry me?" in chocolate sauce around the rim of his/her dessert plate.
26. Run her a bath with scented candles, rose petals and after she is in the tub, float a rubber duck with the ring tied around it's neck in front of her.
27. Serve her oysters in bed with the ring inside the shell.
28. Write a note asking your other to marry you, place it inside a bottle. Take her/him to the beach when he/she is in the water slip the bottle in and ask them to open it to see what it says.
29. Spell your proposal out in glow-in-the-dark star stickers on your ceiling. Climb on top of him/her and wait for the yes, yes, yes.
30. Leave a trail of notes for him/her to follow and when he/she reaches the end you will be standing there with a sign or you can say "Will you marry me?"
31. Scratch your proposal into the frost on his or her car's windshield.
32. Take your partner to the beach and write "Will you marry me?" in big letters in the sand.
33. Take him/her on a sail boat ride and pop the question.
34. Leave the ring on her pillow a long with a note and go take a shower.
35. Take her/him up in a hot air balloon with a bottle of champagne and announce that'll you'll jump if she/he doesn't marry you.
36. Take her/him to see his/her favorite band and ask one of the stage crew if they will pop the question for you.
37. Plan a treasure hunt. Set the clues in place and when he/she gets to the last clue you will be standing there with champagne and a proposal they can't refuse.
38. Hire a skywriter to spell your proposal on high.
39. Hire a plane to fly a banner with your "Marry me (insert name here)" message written on it.
40. Sneak in to her home and fill it to the rafters with balloons and or flowers and in the middle sit a teddy bear holding the ring and a note asking her to marry you.
41. Propose in French the language of love.
42. Play Hangman and have the phrase be "Marry Me."
43. Throw her/him a surprise birthday party inviting friends and family and then propose.
44. Write her/him a story about your relationship. Almost like a diary with dates if possible. Then end it with the date you are going to give it to him/her telling how you proposed and that the story can't be ended until you have the answer.
45. If it's snowing write "Will you marry me?" in it.
46. Take him to see his favorite sports team playing and get the commentator to ask him to marry you.
Hanuma:) :) :)
From India, Kakinada
1. Do it the old fashioned way. Get down on one knee with a rose clenched in your teeth and the ring in your hand.
2. Have a waiter bring you her favorite dessert with the ring inside of it. (Be careful that she doesn't swallow it).
3. Take her/him to the theatre and ask the stage manager if he will allow you to come up on stage and propose after the final curtain.
4. Show up at her/his office in the middle of the afternoon armed with a red rose, a bottle of champagne and a glass with the ring in it.
5. Write "Will you marry me (name)" in chalk on the street out side your house or apartment in big letters.
6. Call your local radio station and get them to pop the question for you over the air waves at a time that you know she/he will be listening. Then dedicate a song to her/him.
7. Gather all your friends and family for drinks either at a favorite restaurant or your home and pop the question in front of everyone.
8. Gather friends and family outside his/her home waving banners with the words will you marry me on them and you standing in front of them all on one knee holding the ring. (Make sure that they get the right house).
9. Send a singing telegram to her/his workplace. Then walk in just after the song is finished and pop the question.
10. Create a web page all about your life together. Photos, places that mean a lot to you both. Send him/her the web address and wait for his/her reply and when accepted you can then send the address to friends and family.
11. Wrap a large box and fill with smaller boxes all wrapped the last box that she will come to will be the smallest with the ring inside. Or alternatively wrap a large box and fill with those tiny foam pieces and let her look for the small box inside.
12. Cut the bottom out of a very large box then wrap it. Take it to her place of work and ask one of her colleague's to go get her telling her that there is a large parcel for her. Meanwhile you climb in from the bottom and when she unwraps it jump out with the ring in hand and ask her to make an honest man of you.
13. Take her/him away for the weekend and when you are on your last day pop the question.
14. Get up extra early and prepare her/him breakfast in bed. Cook his/her favorite meal with a red rose and a bottle of champagne and a kiss to wake him/her and then declare your love.
15. Scatter rose petals all over her bed and put the gift wrapped ring in the center. Tell her that you bought her a gift to show how much you love her. When she opens it tell her that you want to spend the rest of your life with her.
16. Cook your loved one a romantic meal and place a note around the napkin like it is a napkin holder asking her/him to marry you. Or slip the napkin (use fabric ones not paper!) through the ring, when she goes to put her napkin in her lap she will find the ring.
17. Give your her a foot massage and place the ring on her little toe.
18. Blindfold him/her and take them to the place where you first met each other. Take along a bottle of champagne and two glasses to celebrate after you propose.
19. Bake him/her a cake and write on top of it Will you marry me?
20. Take out a full page ad in a paper that you know your loved one reads regularly and be close by when he/she reads it.
21. Buy your loved one a watch and have it inscribed "marry me."
22. Pour her a glass of wine with the ring in the bottom of it and when she drinks the wine she will find the ring.
23. Go for a picnic together then pop the question.
24. Propose at Christmas by hanging the ring in it's box from on the tree as if it was an ornament. Tell her to find the new special ornament you just purchased for her.
25. If you're dining in a fancy restaurant, ask the waiter/waitress to write, "Will you marry me?" in chocolate sauce around the rim of his/her dessert plate.
26. Run her a bath with scented candles, rose petals and after she is in the tub, float a rubber duck with the ring tied around it's neck in front of her.
27. Serve her oysters in bed with the ring inside the shell.
28. Write a note asking your other to marry you, place it inside a bottle. Take her/him to the beach when he/she is in the water slip the bottle in and ask them to open it to see what it says.
29. Spell your proposal out in glow-in-the-dark star stickers on your ceiling. Climb on top of him/her and wait for the yes, yes, yes.
30. Leave a trail of notes for him/her to follow and when he/she reaches the end you will be standing there with a sign or you can say "Will you marry me?"
31. Scratch your proposal into the frost on his or her car's windshield.
32. Take your partner to the beach and write "Will you marry me?" in big letters in the sand.
33. Take him/her on a sail boat ride and pop the question.
34. Leave the ring on her pillow a long with a note and go take a shower.
35. Take her/him up in a hot air balloon with a bottle of champagne and announce that'll you'll jump if she/he doesn't marry you.
36. Take her/him to see his/her favorite band and ask one of the stage crew if they will pop the question for you.
37. Plan a treasure hunt. Set the clues in place and when he/she gets to the last clue you will be standing there with champagne and a proposal they can't refuse.
38. Hire a skywriter to spell your proposal on high.
39. Hire a plane to fly a banner with your "Marry me (insert name here)" message written on it.
40. Sneak in to her home and fill it to the rafters with balloons and or flowers and in the middle sit a teddy bear holding the ring and a note asking her to marry you.
41. Propose in French the language of love.
42. Play Hangman and have the phrase be "Marry Me."
43. Throw her/him a surprise birthday party inviting friends and family and then propose.
44. Write her/him a story about your relationship. Almost like a diary with dates if possible. Then end it with the date you are going to give it to him/her telling how you proposed and that the story can't be ended until you have the answer.
45. If it's snowing write "Will you marry me?" in it.
46. Take him to see his favorite sports team playing and get the commentator to ask him to marry you.
Hanuma:) :) :)
From India, Kakinada
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