The Buddha explained how to handle insult and maintain compassion.
One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching others," he shouted. "You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake."
Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man "Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?"
The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift."
The Buddha smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself."
"If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy."
The young man listened closely to these wise words of the Buddha. "You are right, o Enlightened One, "he said. "Please teach me the path of love. I wish to become your follower."
The Buddha answered kindly, "Of course. I teach anyone who truly wants to learn. Come with me."
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Hi Friends,
I loved this post a lot and thought of sharing it with you all. "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.â??
So I hope all the hot tempered will control their anger and restrain from causing permanent damage.
Stay cool. Keep Smiling Always.
From India, Pondicherry
5One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching others," he shouted. "You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake."
Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man "Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?"
The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift."
The Buddha smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself."
"If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy."
The young man listened closely to these wise words of the Buddha. "You are right, o Enlightened One, "he said. "Please teach me the path of love. I wish to become your follower."
The Buddha answered kindly, "Of course. I teach anyone who truly wants to learn. Come with me."
******
Hi Friends,
I loved this post a lot and thought of sharing it with you all. "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.â??
So I hope all the hot tempered will control their anger and restrain from causing permanent damage.
Stay cool. Keep Smiling Always.
From India, Pondicherry
Arun words are easy to spell out but too dificult to put them in practice.........Anger management is very important especially to all HR's as they need to deal with so many people with different mentalities.
From India, Madras
From India, Madras
Ya Hrishi i agree with u but perfection can be gained only by dedication without which everything goes in vain
From India, Madras
From India, Madras
both are true hrishi n malini.... this is all about EQ (Emotional Quotient), it deals with how one control his/her emotions and keep their cool every time.
Anyways a gud moral to keep in our mind.....thnx for posting such gud articles arun really gud work n keep going.....
I hope we can watch this space for more
Thank you
Vikram
From India
Anyways a gud moral to keep in our mind.....thnx for posting such gud articles arun really gud work n keep going.....
I hope we can watch this space for more
Thank you
Vikram
From India
Thanks Vikram.
Few tips - How to deal with anger
1. When you are angry say nothing
2. Be indifferent to those who seek to make us angry.
3. Focus on Something Completely Different.
4. Meditation.
5. Recollect the moments tat cherish ur mind
From India, Madras
Few tips - How to deal with anger
1. When you are angry say nothing
2. Be indifferent to those who seek to make us angry.
3. Focus on Something Completely Different.
4. Meditation.
5. Recollect the moments tat cherish ur mind
From India, Madras
The Anger Iceberg
Try this anger awareness exercise and see if it helps you understand this complicated emotion.
Suggestion :
1. Draw an iceberg on a piece of paper like the example below. Label the tip: "anger."
2. Think about a situation in which you felt angry.
3. Write what you did with your anger in the space above the water line.
4. See the "Taking Action" section on the other side of this sheet. What behaviour choices did you make to deal with your anger? What happened as a result?
5. Since anger is a secondary emotion, what were the underlying feeling(s)? Write them beneath the tip.
6. Was the problem solved OK? Do you still need to tell the people involved how y ou felt?
7. Evaluate your choices. What might have happened if you had chosen an assertive response to deal with your anger?
From India, Madras
Try this anger awareness exercise and see if it helps you understand this complicated emotion.
Suggestion :
1. Draw an iceberg on a piece of paper like the example below. Label the tip: "anger."
2. Think about a situation in which you felt angry.
3. Write what you did with your anger in the space above the water line.
4. See the "Taking Action" section on the other side of this sheet. What behaviour choices did you make to deal with your anger? What happened as a result?
5. Since anger is a secondary emotion, what were the underlying feeling(s)? Write them beneath the tip.
6. Was the problem solved OK? Do you still need to tell the people involved how y ou felt?
7. Evaluate your choices. What might have happened if you had chosen an assertive response to deal with your anger?
From India, Madras
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