Respected Seniors,
I am working with my company from last 2 and a half years. Me and the manager of my company are going around from past few years. I am an ambitious girl. I want to make my career in HR. But my parents in law would not allow me to do job. However, my partner is saying that we will convince my parents in law after few months (5/6/7 months) from marriage... As per my company, we can take 30 annual leaves... I don't want to spoil my career because of marriage and I want to get married as well with my partner. I do not want to leave my current company. My wish is to work with this company for a long time because I am very happy with my office.
Am I entitled to take 6 months break from my company??? After that any how we will convince my parents in law... i will try to convince them within 3 to 4 months...
Should I ask this to my immediate manager (HR Head)???
Please suggest me seniors... I am in BIG TROUBLE...!!!
What should I do...??? Both (Career and love) of them are the essential part of my life...
Please help :!: :!: :!:
In big trouble,
Sana :? :? :?
From India, New Delhi
I am working with my company from last 2 and a half years. Me and the manager of my company are going around from past few years. I am an ambitious girl. I want to make my career in HR. But my parents in law would not allow me to do job. However, my partner is saying that we will convince my parents in law after few months (5/6/7 months) from marriage... As per my company, we can take 30 annual leaves... I don't want to spoil my career because of marriage and I want to get married as well with my partner. I do not want to leave my current company. My wish is to work with this company for a long time because I am very happy with my office.
Am I entitled to take 6 months break from my company??? After that any how we will convince my parents in law... i will try to convince them within 3 to 4 months...
Should I ask this to my immediate manager (HR Head)???
Please suggest me seniors... I am in BIG TROUBLE...!!!
What should I do...??? Both (Career and love) of them are the essential part of my life...
Please help :!: :!: :!:
In big trouble,
Sana :? :? :?
From India, New Delhi
I think that I could not have ask this question in this community because this community is not for these kind of problems... But still if any one would like to suggest me on this topic, kindly revert back...
Sorry Seniors, If I have done a mistake...
Sana
From India, New Delhi
Sorry Seniors, If I have done a mistake...
Sana
From India, New Delhi
Hi
Sana
How are you doing?Sana don't take others decision in this issue!Aap ka dil ki awwaz suno!Analayse karo decision lelo...H.R hai tu....Mind these two things in life stay away from Expectations and Attractions!
Kind/Reagard's
Pawan
From India, Hyderabad
3Sana
How are you doing?Sana don't take others decision in this issue!Aap ka dil ki awwaz suno!Analayse karo decision lelo...H.R hai tu....Mind these two things in life stay away from Expectations and Attractions!
Kind/Reagard's
Pawan
From India, Hyderabad
Dear Sana,
You have more than one option to go for
1) You can discuss with your in laws in the presence of your partner and try to convince them before marriage.
2) Take a leave for 30 days after marriage and try convincing them. If this doesn’t work then
3) Take a break for 6 months convince them with the help of your partner and
join the company.
4) Else have an open option for any of the companies to resume the job.
What ever the way you take, Talk openly with your partner and come towards
a conscience. You both would be the right people to make the decision on the approach.
All the best for your job and Love.
Regards,
S.Aravind.
From India, Madras
You have more than one option to go for
1) You can discuss with your in laws in the presence of your partner and try to convince them before marriage.
2) Take a leave for 30 days after marriage and try convincing them. If this doesn’t work then
3) Take a break for 6 months convince them with the help of your partner and
join the company.
4) Else have an open option for any of the companies to resume the job.
What ever the way you take, Talk openly with your partner and come towards
a conscience. You both would be the right people to make the decision on the approach.
All the best for your job and Love.
Regards,
S.Aravind.
From India, Madras
dEAR aRVIND,
DO YOU THINK THIS IS HR WHATEVER YOU ADVISE WHERE DID YOU LEARN IN HRM STUDIES:?:
THIS IS NUN OR OUR BUSINESS WHAT SHE DECIDES IS HE PERSONAL WE ARE NOT MARIAGE COUNSELLORS HERE.
YOU HAVE INVENTED NEW HR INITIATIVES HR ON MARIAGE COUNSELLOR:-D
WE MUST SHOW SOME MATURITY DECIDING WHAT PEOPLE ARE ASKING WHETHER THAT FITS OUR PROFESSION OR NOT:-P
FOR THIS REASON ONLY MY PEOFILE IS NAMED AS BADLOOSER ON THIS SITE:confused:
TAMARO NANO BHAI
BADLOOSER
quote=Aravindsurendran;555488]Dear Sana,
You have more than one option to go for
1) You can discuss with your in laws in the presence of your partner and try to convince them before marriage.
2) Take a leave for 30 days after marriage and try convincing them. If this doesn’t work then
3) Take a break for 6 months convince them with the help of your partner and
join the company.
4) Else have an open option for any of the companies to resume the job.
What ever the way you take, Talk openly with your partner and come towards
a conscience. You both would be the right people to make the decision on the approach.
All the best for your job and Love.
Regards,
S.Aravind.[/quote]
From Saudi Arabia
DO YOU THINK THIS IS HR WHATEVER YOU ADVISE WHERE DID YOU LEARN IN HRM STUDIES:?:
THIS IS NUN OR OUR BUSINESS WHAT SHE DECIDES IS HE PERSONAL WE ARE NOT MARIAGE COUNSELLORS HERE.
YOU HAVE INVENTED NEW HR INITIATIVES HR ON MARIAGE COUNSELLOR:-D
WE MUST SHOW SOME MATURITY DECIDING WHAT PEOPLE ARE ASKING WHETHER THAT FITS OUR PROFESSION OR NOT:-P
FOR THIS REASON ONLY MY PEOFILE IS NAMED AS BADLOOSER ON THIS SITE:confused:
TAMARO NANO BHAI
BADLOOSER
quote=Aravindsurendran;555488]Dear Sana,
You have more than one option to go for
1) You can discuss with your in laws in the presence of your partner and try to convince them before marriage.
2) Take a leave for 30 days after marriage and try convincing them. If this doesn’t work then
3) Take a break for 6 months convince them with the help of your partner and
join the company.
4) Else have an open option for any of the companies to resume the job.
What ever the way you take, Talk openly with your partner and come towards
a conscience. You both would be the right people to make the decision on the approach.
All the best for your job and Love.
Regards,
S.Aravind.[/quote]
From Saudi Arabia
Hi Arvind and Badlooser,
Im not too much of an HR person ad rarely venture out to give opinions in this forum.Some how cudnt stop myself this time.
There is no denying the fact that yes, this is Sana's personal problem and that she wud be the best judge as far as her personal life is concerned. Perhaps what she is truely trying to find in this forum is what are her options ,shud she decide to take a break for the above mentioned span of time.She probably wants to understand how seriously this break wud damage her options of resuming work in same org.Perhaps the seniors might want to help here.
In my opinion, the best way wud be to spk to ur Hr and discuss yr position.And if post 6 months or whatever, whn u plan to resume, and there is a vacancy then depending on yr past performance and also company policies(as some org dont allow spouses in same org) they might be willing to recruit u back in the system.
Seniors pls advise and do correct me if Iam wrong.
Good luck Sana all the best .
R's ,
Aashima.P
From India, Mumbai
Im not too much of an HR person ad rarely venture out to give opinions in this forum.Some how cudnt stop myself this time.
There is no denying the fact that yes, this is Sana's personal problem and that she wud be the best judge as far as her personal life is concerned. Perhaps what she is truely trying to find in this forum is what are her options ,shud she decide to take a break for the above mentioned span of time.She probably wants to understand how seriously this break wud damage her options of resuming work in same org.Perhaps the seniors might want to help here.
In my opinion, the best way wud be to spk to ur Hr and discuss yr position.And if post 6 months or whatever, whn u plan to resume, and there is a vacancy then depending on yr past performance and also company policies(as some org dont allow spouses in same org) they might be willing to recruit u back in the system.
Seniors pls advise and do correct me if Iam wrong.
Good luck Sana all the best .
R's ,
Aashima.P
From India, Mumbai
Sana its ur personal problem u r going with ur manager means u gonna marry ur manager, n then leave problems its ur personal,, yaar , pls dont post such personal problems here,, its matter between ur manager and u, and if ur hR finds out both may lose job, if ur co doesnt allow spouse to work ,and for ur inlaws prob consult ur frnds,as my frnd BAD LOOSER told that we are not marriage counsellors.. :icon1:
From India, Pune
From India, Pune
Community Support and Knowledge-base on business, career and organisational prospects and issues - Register and Log In to CiteHR and post your query, download formats and be part of a fostered community of professionals.
Dull Career pdf.pdf
Hello Seniors.doc