thanks all for ur suggestions,i vl certainly follow it. The user has removed the content of the thread.
From India, Thiruvananthapuram
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Dear Barkha,
Is it possible for you to explain your priorities to these guys, if not directly, then through the other girl? I think talking it out is sometimes the best way to settle things. I reckon these guys are offended because you went 'complaining' to the CEO, and that's what has made the situation take an ugly turn. I still recommend going to these guys, talking to them, explaining your professional objectives, and assuring them to be "friends forever". If this does not work, then quit.
And yes, a word of caution for you, be careful.
Prashant
From India, Delhi
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26Is it possible for you to explain your priorities to these guys, if not directly, then through the other girl? I think talking it out is sometimes the best way to settle things. I reckon these guys are offended because you went 'complaining' to the CEO, and that's what has made the situation take an ugly turn. I still recommend going to these guys, talking to them, explaining your professional objectives, and assuring them to be "friends forever". If this does not work, then quit.
And yes, a word of caution for you, be careful.
Prashant
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Hello Barkha, I agree with Prashant....including his last line. Try to do it, without any rancour whatsoever. All the Best. Rgds, TS
From India, Hyderabad
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Dear Barkha,
Sometimes we people make problems for ourselves. No doubt, we have to consider colleagues as good friends and have to maintain good relations with them, but we also need to maintain a professional gap. Lack of a professional gap creates problems and causes stress. Maybe somewhere you are responsible for the said problem by not maintaining a professional gap.
Well, it's time to take precautions and not let this matter become a huge issue in management. As you are well aware of them – go to them, discuss the same thing, and exchange views. Try to sort out the issue to the maximum possible extent. Leave your ego aside, assure them that you are a good friend, feel sorry if you are at fault, or forgive them if they apologize and realize their mistake.
Remember: An employee who is unable to maintain a gap in their professional life may lose their self-respect.
Regards,
Pankaj Chandan
From India, New delhi
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Sometimes we people make problems for ourselves. No doubt, we have to consider colleagues as good friends and have to maintain good relations with them, but we also need to maintain a professional gap. Lack of a professional gap creates problems and causes stress. Maybe somewhere you are responsible for the said problem by not maintaining a professional gap.
Well, it's time to take precautions and not let this matter become a huge issue in management. As you are well aware of them – go to them, discuss the same thing, and exchange views. Try to sort out the issue to the maximum possible extent. Leave your ego aside, assure them that you are a good friend, feel sorry if you are at fault, or forgive them if they apologize and realize their mistake.
Remember: An employee who is unable to maintain a gap in their professional life may lose their self-respect.
Regards,
Pankaj Chandan
From India, New delhi
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This reminds of the advice given to me by my trainer, when I was undergoing training as an Industrial Engineer. He said "Be friendly with all; and never become familiar with workers". Simhan
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Why did you have to inform the CEO about all this?
These things are to be maintained outside the office. If they are playing silly things with each other, all you need to do is - show no emotions that you are pleased or irritated. Just ignore. They will close their mouths and start focusing on their work. At the end of the day, people will blame you that you were encouraging this. And I believe that you are not at all interested in these things. So behave in the same way... act as if you don't even see that such a fight between them is on.
Don't think of resigning because someone else is acting weird, dear. Once you start focusing on your issues and show the least interest towards them, they will understand that you do not entertain such things, and it can only hamper their growth in the company.
Chill... :-) Just don't bother. Certain issues are best solved by not reacting or responding! This is one such scenario.
From India, Madras
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These things are to be maintained outside the office. If they are playing silly things with each other, all you need to do is - show no emotions that you are pleased or irritated. Just ignore. They will close their mouths and start focusing on their work. At the end of the day, people will blame you that you were encouraging this. And I believe that you are not at all interested in these things. So behave in the same way... act as if you don't even see that such a fight between them is on.
Don't think of resigning because someone else is acting weird, dear. Once you start focusing on your issues and show the least interest towards them, they will understand that you do not entertain such things, and it can only hamper their growth in the company.
Chill... :-) Just don't bother. Certain issues are best solved by not reacting or responding! This is one such scenario.
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Hi,
Firstly, I am assuming that all of these incidents are occurring within the office premises or in an extended place of work.
Since the CEO of the company is already aware of the issue, you can consider warning the men if their approach doesn't seem acceptable to you. Please be aware of your rights as an employee and a citizen. If you strongly believe that you are a victim of undue discrimination and prejudice, you can always approach the Head of the Organization or any person appointed to inquire into such instances of harassment.
In many companies today, such instances are categorized under Gender Discrimination or Sexual Harassment, or both, for which the employer and the perpetrators are legally punishable.
Therefore, my suggestion is to report the matter to a person in whom you have confidence. Your silence may exacerbate the situation.
Always remember that you have the right to self-determination, and there is no reason to compromise your job due to unjustified reasons like these.
Good luck, buddy!
Regards,
Girish S.
From India, Delhi
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Firstly, I am assuming that all of these incidents are occurring within the office premises or in an extended place of work.
Since the CEO of the company is already aware of the issue, you can consider warning the men if their approach doesn't seem acceptable to you. Please be aware of your rights as an employee and a citizen. If you strongly believe that you are a victim of undue discrimination and prejudice, you can always approach the Head of the Organization or any person appointed to inquire into such instances of harassment.
In many companies today, such instances are categorized under Gender Discrimination or Sexual Harassment, or both, for which the employer and the perpetrators are legally punishable.
Therefore, my suggestion is to report the matter to a person in whom you have confidence. Your silence may exacerbate the situation.
Always remember that you have the right to self-determination, and there is no reason to compromise your job due to unjustified reasons like these.
Good luck, buddy!
Regards,
Girish S.
From India, Delhi
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Dear Barkha,
If you are straightforward, go to the guys and tell them what you are going through. Let them know that if they really care for you, they shouldn't engage in such cheap behavior. You can also mention that being a lady all alone in a new city, they are the ones you rely on. Try to build trust with them. And most importantly, don't take too much tension :)
From India, Madras
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If you are straightforward, go to the guys and tell them what you are going through. Let them know that if they really care for you, they shouldn't engage in such cheap behavior. You can also mention that being a lady all alone in a new city, they are the ones you rely on. Try to build trust with them. And most importantly, don't take too much tension :)
From India, Madras
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I am facing great mental tension in my new office place. Basically, I am a North Indian girl and I joined this company 1 month back (which is in Kerala, Trivandrum).
Dear, where in Trivandrum and which company are you engaged with? I am working in Technopark, Trivandrum, and basically, I am from Trivandrum.
From India, Kochi
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Dear, where in Trivandrum and which company are you engaged with? I am working in Technopark, Trivandrum, and basically, I am from Trivandrum.
From India, Kochi
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