Dear Seniors,
I am striving to gain a particular career advancement within the organization I am currently working for. However, my efforts to convey this to my boss have all been in vain. Moreover, I often feel sidelined and isolated in various situations. I notice that my boss appreciates me for tasks that I am overqualified for, and only occasionally engages with me in a friendly manner. I am eager to address this issue with my seniors who are based overseas. Could you please provide me with guidance on how to communicate my concerns effectively without coming across as merely complaining, and help me articulate my desire to be more involved?
Thanks & regards
From India, Mumbai
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I am striving to gain a particular career advancement within the organization I am currently working for. However, my efforts to convey this to my boss have all been in vain. Moreover, I often feel sidelined and isolated in various situations. I notice that my boss appreciates me for tasks that I am overqualified for, and only occasionally engages with me in a friendly manner. I am eager to address this issue with my seniors who are based overseas. Could you please provide me with guidance on how to communicate my concerns effectively without coming across as merely complaining, and help me articulate my desire to be more involved?
Thanks & regards
From India, Mumbai
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Dear Pleasehelp,
Here's what you can do:
- Have a one-to-one discussion with your boss about your career aspirations and expectations from the company you are working for.
- Ask him what qualities/skills he thinks you should improve on in order to achieve your goals.
- Don't wait for your boss to give you work or assign you to some job. Be proactive and suggest to your boss about your interest in taking up a particular assignment.
- If your boss doesn't share information without then look for other sources instead of wasting time complaining. But stay informed about what's going on in your department and in your company in general.
You will have to prove to your boss that you are more capable than what he thought and that you can take up serious and complex assignments at work with confidence.
Such problems are pretty common in any work environment, and taking this to your seniors overseas will seem a little immature. However, if you feel things are getting out of hand, then please go ahead... as a last resort.
Hope this helped.
And Mr.Bad Looser: Get a Life!!!
From India, Hyderabad
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6Here's what you can do:
- Have a one-to-one discussion with your boss about your career aspirations and expectations from the company you are working for.
- Ask him what qualities/skills he thinks you should improve on in order to achieve your goals.
- Don't wait for your boss to give you work or assign you to some job. Be proactive and suggest to your boss about your interest in taking up a particular assignment.
- If your boss doesn't share information without then look for other sources instead of wasting time complaining. But stay informed about what's going on in your department and in your company in general.
You will have to prove to your boss that you are more capable than what he thought and that you can take up serious and complex assignments at work with confidence.
Such problems are pretty common in any work environment, and taking this to your seniors overseas will seem a little immature. However, if you feel things are getting out of hand, then please go ahead... as a last resort.
Hope this helped.
And Mr.Bad Looser: Get a Life!!!
From India, Hyderabad
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Dear Friend,
I am sorry I don't want to call you by the name "PLEASE HELP." So, I should call you Friend.
Anyway, Friend, please don't worry. Things will get alright. You just need to give time to your work and be smart in working and presenting whatever you do in a logical and soft manner.
Never say no to your boss, but at the same time, whatever you do as per his delegation, keep a record of that signed by him and CC to some of your other colleagues too.
Try to be a proactive subordinate and protect your boss in public, even if you know that he is not right. Just support him for the sake of your departmental integration, and later on, you can softly advise and take his burden on your shoulder. You will find gradually he will start depending on you, and to retain you with himself, he will start thinking about your career growth and your job profile.
So, Friend, we are always there to support you. Please don't lose heart. Be cool and always wear a smile on your face. It helps a lot in fighting internal problems. Good luck.
Take care,
Anju Prince
From India, Chandigarh
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I am sorry I don't want to call you by the name "PLEASE HELP." So, I should call you Friend.
Anyway, Friend, please don't worry. Things will get alright. You just need to give time to your work and be smart in working and presenting whatever you do in a logical and soft manner.
Never say no to your boss, but at the same time, whatever you do as per his delegation, keep a record of that signed by him and CC to some of your other colleagues too.
Try to be a proactive subordinate and protect your boss in public, even if you know that he is not right. Just support him for the sake of your departmental integration, and later on, you can softly advise and take his burden on your shoulder. You will find gradually he will start depending on you, and to retain you with himself, he will start thinking about your career growth and your job profile.
So, Friend, we are always there to support you. Please don't lose heart. Be cool and always wear a smile on your face. It helps a lot in fighting internal problems. Good luck.
Take care,
Anju Prince
From India, Chandigarh
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Hi Friends,
I entirely agree with Deepthi. Friends, you should talk to your boss initially. Please do a one-on-one session with him, tell him all your problems and queries. Maybe you both are misinterpreting each other. So please talk to your boss first instead of complaining to the overseas seniors.
Regards,
Sakshi
From India, Jaipur
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I entirely agree with Deepthi. Friends, you should talk to your boss initially. Please do a one-on-one session with him, tell him all your problems and queries. Maybe you both are misinterpreting each other. So please talk to your boss first instead of complaining to the overseas seniors.
Regards,
Sakshi
From India, Jaipur
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Well, I have a message for those who got angry by the comments of Bad Loser.
We have a case study put up by one of our members, and as told by one member, we surely should empathize with him/her.
But if we correctly read the post, it is derived that the poster is calling his boss weird and stating the incidences in which he claims that his boss is acting weird. But it is not necessary that what he/she told about their boss might be true. It could also be otherwise, and this person who posted this thread might be in real need of psychological help. So, your ideas like having a one-to-one with the boss, how can it help if, in the real scenario, the boss is correct in their place, and this person is unnecessarily cribbing about the boss.
SAD SAD thing is that major members on this site failed to understand Bad Loser's point of view and directly started abusing him. Shame on you people who don't even know how to solve case studies and start giving your replies based on hearing only one person's view and without getting detailed data. Imagine you being the good boss, and if your subordinate is having such a problem and accuses you by taking a one-to-one meeting, how will you feel? So before giving any advice, think twice. And to those who post their problems before acting on any advice, think four times.
Now let me analyze the problem of the thread starter:
Dear Seniors,
I am striving to gain a particular career from the organization I am currently working for. However, my efforts to make my boss understand this have all gone futile. Above all, I am sidelined/kept isolated on almost all the occasions.
DEAR, THERE ARE MANY OCCASIONS WHICH BOSSES DON'T LIKE TO TELL OR INVOLVE THEIR SUBORDINATES, AND IT'S NORMAL. IT MIGHT BE THAT EITHER THE SUBORDINATE WOULD NOT UNDERSTAND THE ISSUE OR THE ISSUE MIGHT BE OF SOME IMPORTANCE, OR THE BOSS WISHES TO KEEP IT SECRET. SO, DOES THAT MEAN THE BOSS IS WEIRD?
I find my boss appreciating me for tasks for which I am overqualified and being friendly with me only occasionally.
WELL, BE HAPPY YOUR BOSS APPRECIATED YOU. AND DON'T EXPECT ALL JOBS WHICH YOU GET TO BE AT PAR WITH YOUR QUALIFICATIONS. AND I NEVER KNEW A BOSS HAD TO BE FRIENDLY WITH YOU. NOW HERE, I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN BY BEING FRIENDLY...
I am wanting to address this to my seniors who sit overseas. Could you please guide me so that I do not sound complaining and at the same time I could put across my point of getting me involved.
Thanks & regards
SO BAD LOSER'S COMMENT IS ALSO RIGHT FROM THE OTHER POINT OF VIEW.
From India, Pune
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We have a case study put up by one of our members, and as told by one member, we surely should empathize with him/her.
But if we correctly read the post, it is derived that the poster is calling his boss weird and stating the incidences in which he claims that his boss is acting weird. But it is not necessary that what he/she told about their boss might be true. It could also be otherwise, and this person who posted this thread might be in real need of psychological help. So, your ideas like having a one-to-one with the boss, how can it help if, in the real scenario, the boss is correct in their place, and this person is unnecessarily cribbing about the boss.
SAD SAD thing is that major members on this site failed to understand Bad Loser's point of view and directly started abusing him. Shame on you people who don't even know how to solve case studies and start giving your replies based on hearing only one person's view and without getting detailed data. Imagine you being the good boss, and if your subordinate is having such a problem and accuses you by taking a one-to-one meeting, how will you feel? So before giving any advice, think twice. And to those who post their problems before acting on any advice, think four times.
Now let me analyze the problem of the thread starter:
Dear Seniors,
I am striving to gain a particular career from the organization I am currently working for. However, my efforts to make my boss understand this have all gone futile. Above all, I am sidelined/kept isolated on almost all the occasions.
DEAR, THERE ARE MANY OCCASIONS WHICH BOSSES DON'T LIKE TO TELL OR INVOLVE THEIR SUBORDINATES, AND IT'S NORMAL. IT MIGHT BE THAT EITHER THE SUBORDINATE WOULD NOT UNDERSTAND THE ISSUE OR THE ISSUE MIGHT BE OF SOME IMPORTANCE, OR THE BOSS WISHES TO KEEP IT SECRET. SO, DOES THAT MEAN THE BOSS IS WEIRD?
I find my boss appreciating me for tasks for which I am overqualified and being friendly with me only occasionally.
WELL, BE HAPPY YOUR BOSS APPRECIATED YOU. AND DON'T EXPECT ALL JOBS WHICH YOU GET TO BE AT PAR WITH YOUR QUALIFICATIONS. AND I NEVER KNEW A BOSS HAD TO BE FRIENDLY WITH YOU. NOW HERE, I DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN BY BEING FRIENDLY...
I am wanting to address this to my seniors who sit overseas. Could you please guide me so that I do not sound complaining and at the same time I could put across my point of getting me involved.
Thanks & regards
SO BAD LOSER'S COMMENT IS ALSO RIGHT FROM THE OTHER POINT OF VIEW.
From India, Pune
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Dear Friend,
I think your boss has formed a perception about you. I agree with my colleagues that you should directly talk with your boss instead of involving other people, as it would further worsen the situation. Direct communication would provide you with deep insight into the perception that your boss had in his mind about you. Sometimes we feel neglected or ignored in important projects, particularly when we know that we are better qualified and skilled in accomplishing the same, but the boss selects someone else to do the job. Don't be disheartened and have a positive approach. Wish you the best of luck.
From Pakistan, Karachi
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I think your boss has formed a perception about you. I agree with my colleagues that you should directly talk with your boss instead of involving other people, as it would further worsen the situation. Direct communication would provide you with deep insight into the perception that your boss had in his mind about you. Sometimes we feel neglected or ignored in important projects, particularly when we know that we are better qualified and skilled in accomplishing the same, but the boss selects someone else to do the job. Don't be disheartened and have a positive approach. Wish you the best of luck.
From Pakistan, Karachi
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Dear Mr. Bad Loser,
My kind advice is to never demotivate any person when you can motivate them. As an HR professional, listen first and provide the best possible options. It's like if a person wants to do something extreme, instead of encouraging them, you discourage them further.
Dear Mr. Help,
Never give up hope and remember that "the boss is always right."
As an HR personnel, understand what your boss wants. This can be a challenging situation for you but also a learning opportunity. Bosses may not explicitly express their likes and dislikes, so it is up to you to identify them.
In a recent incident, I had a late-night meeting at 11 pm with my Chairman. The next day, he indicated we could continue with the same project. I was prepared with all the necessary materials and awaited his call. However, he did not reach out. At 11 am, he left the office with a serious look in my direction, which left me feeling like I had made a mistake.
I immediately consulted the Director and shared the entire situation. He advised me not to wait for the Chairman's call next time. A month later, a similar situation occurred. So, the following day, I proactively approached him with all the materials discussed in the previous night's meeting.
Some tips I recommend:
1. Identify and understand what the boss wants without trying to change the existing system.
2. Be prepared when tasks are assigned and inform/show completion promptly.
3. Prioritize the boss's work.
4. Avoid showing personal feelings as an HR professional in any circumstance.
5. Lastly, do not expect your boss to change. Adapt yourself quickly without compromising your ethics and principles.
Enjoy the experience. You will encounter various types of individuals everywhere.
With Regards,
Vivek 😂
Quote from Bad Loser: "VISIT PSYCHOLOGIST... 😄
I AM SERIOUSLY ADVISING YOU... 😉
YOU HAVE SOME INFERIORITY COMPLEX... 💡"
From India, Ahmadabad
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My kind advice is to never demotivate any person when you can motivate them. As an HR professional, listen first and provide the best possible options. It's like if a person wants to do something extreme, instead of encouraging them, you discourage them further.
Dear Mr. Help,
Never give up hope and remember that "the boss is always right."
As an HR personnel, understand what your boss wants. This can be a challenging situation for you but also a learning opportunity. Bosses may not explicitly express their likes and dislikes, so it is up to you to identify them.
In a recent incident, I had a late-night meeting at 11 pm with my Chairman. The next day, he indicated we could continue with the same project. I was prepared with all the necessary materials and awaited his call. However, he did not reach out. At 11 am, he left the office with a serious look in my direction, which left me feeling like I had made a mistake.
I immediately consulted the Director and shared the entire situation. He advised me not to wait for the Chairman's call next time. A month later, a similar situation occurred. So, the following day, I proactively approached him with all the materials discussed in the previous night's meeting.
Some tips I recommend:
1. Identify and understand what the boss wants without trying to change the existing system.
2. Be prepared when tasks are assigned and inform/show completion promptly.
3. Prioritize the boss's work.
4. Avoid showing personal feelings as an HR professional in any circumstance.
5. Lastly, do not expect your boss to change. Adapt yourself quickly without compromising your ethics and principles.
Enjoy the experience. You will encounter various types of individuals everywhere.
With Regards,
Vivek 😂
Quote from Bad Loser: "VISIT PSYCHOLOGIST... 😄
I AM SERIOUSLY ADVISING YOU... 😉
YOU HAVE SOME INFERIORITY COMPLEX... 💡"
From India, Ahmadabad
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Hi all,
I have also checked all the posts of BADLOOSER. As the name suggests, I think he is really a bad loser and finally, he hasn't joined this site for sharing knowledge but to make fun of all of us. All of his/her posts reflect that the person is not serious about this site.
I urge the moderators to please find these types of people and block their entries from the site. Otherwise, there will come a time when these types of people will dominate, and the purpose of this site will be completely ruined.
From India, Delhi
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I have also checked all the posts of BADLOOSER. As the name suggests, I think he is really a bad loser and finally, he hasn't joined this site for sharing knowledge but to make fun of all of us. All of his/her posts reflect that the person is not serious about this site.
I urge the moderators to please find these types of people and block their entries from the site. Otherwise, there will come a time when these types of people will dominate, and the purpose of this site will be completely ruined.
From India, Delhi
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Dear all,
I have also checked all the posts of BADLOOSER. As the name suggests, that really the person is a bad loser. This person is not on this site to share knowledge but only to comment on all of us.
I request the moderators to please block/restrict these types of people from entering this site. Otherwise, there will be a time when the site will be full of these kinds of people, and the original motive of this site will be completely ruined.
From India, Delhi
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I have also checked all the posts of BADLOOSER. As the name suggests, that really the person is a bad loser. This person is not on this site to share knowledge but only to comment on all of us.
I request the moderators to please block/restrict these types of people from entering this site. Otherwise, there will be a time when the site will be full of these kinds of people, and the original motive of this site will be completely ruined.
From India, Delhi
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