Dear all,
Could anyone provide me with an idea to relieve myself from the following problem? My career growth is being hindered by issues with my boss. I had some personal problems with my boss two years ago, and since then, he has not been giving me good ratings despite my good performance.
Thank you.
From India, Bangalore
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Could anyone provide me with an idea to relieve myself from the following problem? My career growth is being hindered by issues with my boss. I had some personal problems with my boss two years ago, and since then, he has not been giving me good ratings despite my good performance.
Thank you.
From India, Bangalore
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When he is relatively free, sit with him and calmly explain to him about your achievements. You can also ask him, "What are your shortcomings and problem areas from his viewpoint?" Also, use the opportunity to ask him, "What are your grey areas for improvement?"
It is always better to talk openly, frankly but with controlled emotions, rather than shouting or shedding tears. If you feel like it, you can also praise him as your role model, indicating that you are emulating him in your career.
Many bosses prefer their subordinates or team members to be free and frank in voicing their grievances directly, rather than hearing them through other sources in the office.
Best wishes,
NK Sundaram
From India, Bengaluru
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597It is always better to talk openly, frankly but with controlled emotions, rather than shouting or shedding tears. If you feel like it, you can also praise him as your role model, indicating that you are emulating him in your career.
Many bosses prefer their subordinates or team members to be free and frank in voicing their grievances directly, rather than hearing them through other sources in the office.
Best wishes,
NK Sundaram
From India, Bengaluru
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Good day,
The advice from Mr. Sundaram is very good. If you have already been through that, then there is no choice but to involve a third person, engage HR, and hold an open-minded meeting where you can resolve this at the earliest.
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From Kuwait, Hawalli
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The advice from Mr. Sundaram is very good. If you have already been through that, then there is no choice but to involve a third person, engage HR, and hold an open-minded meeting where you can resolve this at the earliest.
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From Kuwait, Hawalli
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You have one more choice left. You can contact your boss's immediate superior, who in turn is your next superior, to intervene and resolve the issue.
It is always advisable that the three of you meet across the table and sort out the issue. The problem is confined to your office and between two individuals. Hence, no outsider can help you in this respect. Further, it is advisable that you don't delay such issues and allow it to escalate.
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NK Sundaram
From India, Bengaluru
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It is always advisable that the three of you meet across the table and sort out the issue. The problem is confined to your office and between two individuals. Hence, no outsider can help you in this respect. Further, it is advisable that you don't delay such issues and allow it to escalate.
Best wishes,
NK Sundaram
From India, Bengaluru
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I agree with Sundaram. Involve HR or someone more superior to your immediate boss. Highlight your achievements from the last year so that you can demonstrate your capabilities against any negative feedback. All the best.
From India, Bangalore
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From India, Bangalore
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Mr. Sundaram has correctly suggested even the next step. I wonder about a couple of things.
How is your management: A Sensitive Management, A Professional Management, or A Pro-active Management?
What kind of organization do you work with, Government (where there is job security) or corporate? Is it big? Is transfer possible? A proactive management can help in transfer if it is feasible. I have seen quite a few instances of this kind even in corporates.
Involving HR or going upwards to your boss's superior is a good idea. However, such bosses maintain good relations with these personnel. Find out before escalating.
It is rightly said that People Do Not Leave Companies; People Leave Managers. 90% of Employees Leave Companies Because of Mental Harassment.
Is your boss a bully? Does he harass other employees working under him?
Then you can think of a change in your Basics Approach:
1. Be the best in your job.
2. Be Assertive.
3. Bullies Thrive on less assertive, highly emotional, and vulnerable people.
4. Think of Upfront Conversation; However, No Confrontation!
Keeping silent does harm, but Confrontation does not help or would do more harm...
What type of job is it? Keeping qualified data of your work can be helpful when the time comes.
Is it possible to communicate through intra-mail with your boss to keep progress of work with cc upwards? Such communication over time becomes a solid document. Documentation of facts is important if one day you have to defend yourself, as repeated bad reports are bound to invite higher management into the picture someday.
Dr. Ulhas Ganu
From India, Mumbai
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How is your management: A Sensitive Management, A Professional Management, or A Pro-active Management?
What kind of organization do you work with, Government (where there is job security) or corporate? Is it big? Is transfer possible? A proactive management can help in transfer if it is feasible. I have seen quite a few instances of this kind even in corporates.
Involving HR or going upwards to your boss's superior is a good idea. However, such bosses maintain good relations with these personnel. Find out before escalating.
It is rightly said that People Do Not Leave Companies; People Leave Managers. 90% of Employees Leave Companies Because of Mental Harassment.
Is your boss a bully? Does he harass other employees working under him?
Then you can think of a change in your Basics Approach:
1. Be the best in your job.
2. Be Assertive.
3. Bullies Thrive on less assertive, highly emotional, and vulnerable people.
4. Think of Upfront Conversation; However, No Confrontation!
Keeping silent does harm, but Confrontation does not help or would do more harm...
What type of job is it? Keeping qualified data of your work can be helpful when the time comes.
Is it possible to communicate through intra-mail with your boss to keep progress of work with cc upwards? Such communication over time becomes a solid document. Documentation of facts is important if one day you have to defend yourself, as repeated bad reports are bound to invite higher management into the picture someday.
Dr. Ulhas Ganu
From India, Mumbai
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I think you have reached a stage where there is no compromise formula that works owing to ego problems and a superiority complex in your boss, no matter how well you perform. You are also getting humiliated and feeling a career block. This will certainly reflect on your work sooner or later. Such ruthless people are not easily modifiable. Why put yourself in trouble for none of your fault? Remember "HARI SADU". You may consider requesting a transfer from your present assignment within the organization where your boss's interference is minimal or try to find a better job elsewhere.
From India, Chandigarh
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From India, Chandigarh
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Hi,
You have 2 options here.
1st option:
Make a list of your achievements for the last 2 years, from the beginning to the best, and relate it to how it has contributed to the company's benefits/progress. With this list, speak with your HR Manager, and then both of you can meet your boss to try to resolve the issue. In most cases, the issues get resolved immediately.
In some cases, the issue may not be resolved, and HR may support your boss due to their personal relations. In that case, your boss may continue to harass you, so you need to go with option 2.
Option 2:
Create minutes of the meeting you had with the HR and your boss, attach it along with your achievements, and send an email to your top management while keeping the HR and your boss in CC.
The bottom line is clear: if your boss treats you well, you are a part of his team. If he is acting smart and trying to ruin your growth, then make sure even he meets the same fate. You may not benefit from this, but at least he will learn a lesson.
All the best,
Prasad
From India, Bangalore
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You have 2 options here.
1st option:
Make a list of your achievements for the last 2 years, from the beginning to the best, and relate it to how it has contributed to the company's benefits/progress. With this list, speak with your HR Manager, and then both of you can meet your boss to try to resolve the issue. In most cases, the issues get resolved immediately.
In some cases, the issue may not be resolved, and HR may support your boss due to their personal relations. In that case, your boss may continue to harass you, so you need to go with option 2.
Option 2:
Create minutes of the meeting you had with the HR and your boss, attach it along with your achievements, and send an email to your top management while keeping the HR and your boss in CC.
The bottom line is clear: if your boss treats you well, you are a part of his team. If he is acting smart and trying to ruin your growth, then make sure even he meets the same fate. You may not benefit from this, but at least he will learn a lesson.
All the best,
Prasad
From India, Bangalore
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Hi,
You said that you have already discussed the matter with your boss, but how often have you done it? Even if you have already discussed the issue with your boss, please do it again and again. Just make sure that someone from HR or senior management knows that you are trying to resolve the issue related to your performance. No senior wants to be projected as a person who is not able to guide his/her juniors in the right direction.
Secondly, ask someone from HR to evaluate your performance for you. This way, you will also know what the real issue is. Third-party evaluation holds strong credentials in front of senior management.
Also, start looking for a job because no matter what you do, your actions are going to come back to haunt you in your future with the same organization.
From India, Mumbai
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You said that you have already discussed the matter with your boss, but how often have you done it? Even if you have already discussed the issue with your boss, please do it again and again. Just make sure that someone from HR or senior management knows that you are trying to resolve the issue related to your performance. No senior wants to be projected as a person who is not able to guide his/her juniors in the right direction.
Secondly, ask someone from HR to evaluate your performance for you. This way, you will also know what the real issue is. Third-party evaluation holds strong credentials in front of senior management.
Also, start looking for a job because no matter what you do, your actions are going to come back to haunt you in your future with the same organization.
From India, Mumbai
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Everybody seems to be driving Sethumanoharan to a point of humiliation. The measures suggested will harm his self-esteem, and he will lose his wit to work honestly with zeal. Why does an honest person have to beg for his modesty?
In the given situation, I reiterate my earlier suggestion of getting isolated from this dangerous man (his boss).
From India, Chandigarh
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In the given situation, I reiterate my earlier suggestion of getting isolated from this dangerous man (his boss).
From India, Chandigarh
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