Hi How to cope up for situation if your immediate boss is so stiff and tough and create mental stress in every minute for you?
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Dear Saad,
You have to be proactive; that is the only way. The problem arises mostly when you do not perform or deliver the results as he wants. When he assigns a job, delve into the details of his expectations. Also, do not hesitate to ask him for clarification when you encounter difficulties. This approach not only shows that you are eager to learn from him but also helps him guide you better.
In today's scenario, everyone faces similar challenges. If you are still not comfortable, consider looking for another job. However, bear in mind that you may end up with a worse manager. Therefore, try to tackle the current issue and make your life easier, enabling you to progress in your career.
From India, Mumbai
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You have to be proactive; that is the only way. The problem arises mostly when you do not perform or deliver the results as he wants. When he assigns a job, delve into the details of his expectations. Also, do not hesitate to ask him for clarification when you encounter difficulties. This approach not only shows that you are eager to learn from him but also helps him guide you better.
In today's scenario, everyone faces similar challenges. If you are still not comfortable, consider looking for another job. However, bear in mind that you may end up with a worse manager. Therefore, try to tackle the current issue and make your life easier, enabling you to progress in your career.
From India, Mumbai
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It’s great to have a tough, stiff, and demanding boss. Initially working with him will be a tight rope walk, but once you synchronize your wavelength, it is a genuine pleasure to work with him. The benefits you will have working with tough bosses are-
1. quality of your work improves, because they demand
2. you meet your deadlines easily, cause they ensure
3. your confidence grows exponentially, as you are working in tough environment
4. your best is already out, as they make it certain
5. your future is secure, as your employability increases because of productivity
Finally,
6. your perception of reality broadens, in turn your overall satisfaction increases
You mean, your boss is nitpicking, narrow minded, irritating, and nagging… ohhh. Not a problem, you find this type of Machiavellis everywhere in this world. Luckily, there are huge volumes of advice written on this topic, however, no piece of advice suits singularly to anybody or any situation. We can only cull out, with our wisdom what suits us, or suits the situation. But what is wise? Middle path to nirvana, Budha says.
From India, Bellary
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1. quality of your work improves, because they demand
2. you meet your deadlines easily, cause they ensure
3. your confidence grows exponentially, as you are working in tough environment
4. your best is already out, as they make it certain
5. your future is secure, as your employability increases because of productivity
Finally,
6. your perception of reality broadens, in turn your overall satisfaction increases
You mean, your boss is nitpicking, narrow minded, irritating, and nagging… ohhh. Not a problem, you find this type of Machiavellis everywhere in this world. Luckily, there are huge volumes of advice written on this topic, however, no piece of advice suits singularly to anybody or any situation. We can only cull out, with our wisdom what suits us, or suits the situation. But what is wise? Middle path to nirvana, Budha says.
From India, Bellary
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What do you mean by "Boss is so stiff and tough and creates mental stress," Mr. Masood? Has he/she been doing anything like harassment or something similar? Have you done anything that he/she is not pleased with?
This is just a discussion or are you going through the same situation at a personal level? I request you to please complete your post first or share more details.
Secondly, you are a "Recruitment & Employee Relations Executive," and you must understand the relationship between a Boss and an Employee.
If you are an employee and you find your Boss is stiff and tough, giving you more work, and expecting the results and work done as early as possible, then it is his/her job. You cannot expect your Boss to be friendly with you or behave differently; it is the employee's duty to impress him/her with their work, performance, understanding, and to build a good relationship.
We all, regardless of our positions, have Bosses and have to work under them as they wish, meeting their expectations, and set aside our personal issues to show professionalism.
Hope you understand my point. Please share more so that we can discuss this with better understanding.
From India, Gurgaon
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This is just a discussion or are you going through the same situation at a personal level? I request you to please complete your post first or share more details.
Secondly, you are a "Recruitment & Employee Relations Executive," and you must understand the relationship between a Boss and an Employee.
If you are an employee and you find your Boss is stiff and tough, giving you more work, and expecting the results and work done as early as possible, then it is his/her job. You cannot expect your Boss to be friendly with you or behave differently; it is the employee's duty to impress him/her with their work, performance, understanding, and to build a good relationship.
We all, regardless of our positions, have Bosses and have to work under them as they wish, meeting their expectations, and set aside our personal issues to show professionalism.
Hope you understand my point. Please share more so that we can discuss this with better understanding.
From India, Gurgaon
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Before I explain anything, let me clarify that I'm not afraid of taking on more workload. I'm a hard worker and trying to be a smart worker as well, but it's just the beginning of my 2nd year in the profession (1 year and 1 month). I worked the first 6 months in Business operations and the remaining time as a Human Resource Professional.
Meanwhile, I need a bit of guidance for my work. I can improve, but improvement takes time. If you expect me to become proactive without providing me with any guidance, how can I? If you have 7 years of experience and expect me to work at your level, can I reach your level at once? Won't it take some time? Surely it will.
So, this is what is happening with me nowadays! My point of view is that at least keep some margin so that I can improve my performance to meet your standards.
From Pakistan, Lahore
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Meanwhile, I need a bit of guidance for my work. I can improve, but improvement takes time. If you expect me to become proactive without providing me with any guidance, how can I? If you have 7 years of experience and expect me to work at your level, can I reach your level at once? Won't it take some time? Surely it will.
So, this is what is happening with me nowadays! My point of view is that at least keep some margin so that I can improve my performance to meet your standards.
From Pakistan, Lahore
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Dear Saad,
I understand your point and why you are feeling uncomfortable. As many of the above have very rightly said, understanding your boss is very important. Once you understand and come to his level of delivering what he has asked you, it becomes easier as well as enjoyable.
Probably one comes to this situation after working with a boss who wants to be "Goody Goody & Popular." A professional boss can be understanding or demanding; both styles are correct. But your expectation that he has to be the way you expect him to be? See it from his point of view -- He's the boss, and you have to be as he wants you to be. This is one way of you understanding it or look for greener pastures.
But always remember, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going."
All the best. Don't be disheartened. Look at it from a professional angle. Someday you will become a boss (I am sure you will be milder), but I am sure your learning and growth with such a boss will be worth the pain.
Warm regards,
Richard
From India
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I understand your point and why you are feeling uncomfortable. As many of the above have very rightly said, understanding your boss is very important. Once you understand and come to his level of delivering what he has asked you, it becomes easier as well as enjoyable.
Probably one comes to this situation after working with a boss who wants to be "Goody Goody & Popular." A professional boss can be understanding or demanding; both styles are correct. But your expectation that he has to be the way you expect him to be? See it from his point of view -- He's the boss, and you have to be as he wants you to be. This is one way of you understanding it or look for greener pastures.
But always remember, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going."
All the best. Don't be disheartened. Look at it from a professional angle. Someday you will become a boss (I am sure you will be milder), but I am sure your learning and growth with such a boss will be worth the pain.
Warm regards,
Richard
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Find out u r boss +ve and _ ve = you need to align to his requirements. and you can work smartly by this analysis. u r boss also not born as boss.....
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Dear Saad,
As an HR professional, you need to know one thing: the boss is always right, even if he is not. In this globalized world, there are more competent and smart people than all of us who can work harder and smarter even for less salary. So, don't worry about the boss's behavior because you cannot change it, but you can change your work behavior to suit you and your boss. Remember the following few tips:
1. Sort your work from high priority to low and start with the high-priority tasks. Put your daily routine tasks on your office green wall or whiteboard.
2. Make your life easier by organizing work that shares common information and use technology to minimize duplicate entries on different tasks or data and align them together.
3. The better managed your work and filing system, the less stress you will have.
4. Say yes to your boss for every request because he wants to hear those words, but don't rush for every task unless it is of high priority.
Remember, effective work management and communication play a significant role in your success.
Best regards,
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From Saudi Arabia, Riyadh
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As an HR professional, you need to know one thing: the boss is always right, even if he is not. In this globalized world, there are more competent and smart people than all of us who can work harder and smarter even for less salary. So, don't worry about the boss's behavior because you cannot change it, but you can change your work behavior to suit you and your boss. Remember the following few tips:
1. Sort your work from high priority to low and start with the high-priority tasks. Put your daily routine tasks on your office green wall or whiteboard.
2. Make your life easier by organizing work that shares common information and use technology to minimize duplicate entries on different tasks or data and align them together.
3. The better managed your work and filing system, the less stress you will have.
4. Say yes to your boss for every request because he wants to hear those words, but don't rush for every task unless it is of high priority.
Remember, effective work management and communication play a significant role in your success.
Best regards,
[Your Name]
From Saudi Arabia, Riyadh
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Hi,
I agree with Shenbarajan. You have to be proactive in this situation. Just concentrate on your work, do it wholeheartedly. Whatever doubts or information is required, clarify with your manager properly. There shouldn't be any miscommunication. Handle it effectively, give your best in all ways. If it still doesn't work, search for an alternative, but handle with care.
Thanks,
Kalpana
From India, Madras
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I agree with Shenbarajan. You have to be proactive in this situation. Just concentrate on your work, do it wholeheartedly. Whatever doubts or information is required, clarify with your manager properly. There shouldn't be any miscommunication. Handle it effectively, give your best in all ways. If it still doesn't work, search for an alternative, but handle with care.
Thanks,
Kalpana
From India, Madras
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Watch any saas bahu relations in prime time serial and youl know what to do and what not to do while dealing with your bosses!!!
From India, Pune
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Greetings.
You have a good question so I took time and thought on the subject and share the following with you. I hope it is helpful.
Successfully Strategies for Dealing with a Difficult Boss: Dealing with a difficult boss is like fraternizing with a porcupine--be wise, observant and give a wide berth.
No seriously, I actually got involved in developing a pretty good list of possible strategies of working with a difficult or tough boss. Here is my list of 21 Be's divided up into four categories:
Dealing with a difficult boss is like fraternizing with a porcupine--be wise, observant and give a wide berth. No seriously, I actually got involved in developing a pretty good list of possible strategies of working with a difficult or tough boss. Here is my list of 21 Be's divided up into four categories:
BUILD RELATIONS
1. Be pleasant, don't be a pain, complainer or whiner.
2. Be balanced, optimistic and never never gossip about your boss.
3. Be winsome, friendly and all about serving others and making friends.
4. Be fair and winsome in listening and communicating with your boss.
5. Be open to honestly communicate about ways to work better together
INCREASE VALUE
6. Be solution oriented, develop solutions with every problem you conceive.
7. Be sensitive that you may be part of the problem; be willing to adjust your style.
8. Be aware of your job, company organization style and work it.
9. Be a skilled communicator, perfect your 'show and tell' and document achievements.
10. Be well informed about your responsibilities and share helpful info when appropriate--bosses like employees with initiative.
DEVELOP STRATEGIES
11. Be seeking of ways to quietly find ways to be of assistance to your boss.
12. Be diligent in documenting and keeping notes of key encounters and events.
13. Be wise in keeping a internal and external network when you need and don't need it.
14. Be willing to get a coach to help work with job demands and expectations.
15. Be prepared to go to HR or to your boss's boss for advice or assistance.
SET LIMITS
16. Be clear and aware of what your limits are and what you will and won't take.
17. Be list and details explicit of what behavior is problematic and why.
18. Be well informed and responsive to performance and evaluation expectations.
19. Be diligent to do your best but if all fails, leave with dignity, class and grace.
20. Be careful to never burn bridges--leave friends, not foes.
21. Be prayerful, if you're a person of faith, to trust God and providence.
So there you go. I hope this is helpful.
D. Baker
From United States, Greenville
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You have a good question so I took time and thought on the subject and share the following with you. I hope it is helpful.
Successfully Strategies for Dealing with a Difficult Boss: Dealing with a difficult boss is like fraternizing with a porcupine--be wise, observant and give a wide berth.
No seriously, I actually got involved in developing a pretty good list of possible strategies of working with a difficult or tough boss. Here is my list of 21 Be's divided up into four categories:
Dealing with a difficult boss is like fraternizing with a porcupine--be wise, observant and give a wide berth. No seriously, I actually got involved in developing a pretty good list of possible strategies of working with a difficult or tough boss. Here is my list of 21 Be's divided up into four categories:
BUILD RELATIONS
1. Be pleasant, don't be a pain, complainer or whiner.
2. Be balanced, optimistic and never never gossip about your boss.
3. Be winsome, friendly and all about serving others and making friends.
4. Be fair and winsome in listening and communicating with your boss.
5. Be open to honestly communicate about ways to work better together
INCREASE VALUE
6. Be solution oriented, develop solutions with every problem you conceive.
7. Be sensitive that you may be part of the problem; be willing to adjust your style.
8. Be aware of your job, company organization style and work it.
9. Be a skilled communicator, perfect your 'show and tell' and document achievements.
10. Be well informed about your responsibilities and share helpful info when appropriate--bosses like employees with initiative.
DEVELOP STRATEGIES
11. Be seeking of ways to quietly find ways to be of assistance to your boss.
12. Be diligent in documenting and keeping notes of key encounters and events.
13. Be wise in keeping a internal and external network when you need and don't need it.
14. Be willing to get a coach to help work with job demands and expectations.
15. Be prepared to go to HR or to your boss's boss for advice or assistance.
SET LIMITS
16. Be clear and aware of what your limits are and what you will and won't take.
17. Be list and details explicit of what behavior is problematic and why.
18. Be well informed and responsive to performance and evaluation expectations.
19. Be diligent to do your best but if all fails, leave with dignity, class and grace.
20. Be careful to never burn bridges--leave friends, not foes.
21. Be prayerful, if you're a person of faith, to trust God and providence.
So there you go. I hope this is helpful.
D. Baker
From United States, Greenville
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What do you mean by a "tough boss"? We tend to term them as tough if the bosses are strict on targets. Consider their position; they may be tough due to the influence of their immediate boss being tough. As Anil said, if they are resorting to sexual harassment, they can be termed as tough. Otherwise, concerning the job, if they are tough, it can be managed by understanding their priorities and expectations.
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From India, Lucknow
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My dear, I only want to say that we should focus on the situation, not the person. I know giving advice is easy, but the truth is we need to respond to difficult situations. Believe me, we have the capacity that will come to the fore only when we stop blaming the person or the situation.
Arvind
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Dear Saad,
As an HR practitioner in my consultancy business and previously in employment for 15 years, I would like to share the following:
In our careers, if we start in demanding environments with deadlines, bosses, and targets, please see it as an opportunity to learn and achieve the best results. If you expect your superior to be very understanding and accommodating in all respects, perhaps there is no effective management in the organization. In a career, one must deal with uncertainties. Without delving into the core of the issue, it is challenging for others to judge using a universally accepted yardstick to categorize someone as good, bad, or a demanding boss. It appears that you are in the early stages of your career. Change is constant in the career journey. Things will evolve, but certainly to find a balance over time.
Moreover, facing a demanding situation or boss will have a price tag in terms of compensation for you. If you feel you are receiving lower remuneration than you deserve, you have the option to address this issue with the HR department or higher-ups. Handle it with care. Take action and stay connected with destressing activities like meditation, sports, or any hobby that relaxes your mental state.
Most importantly, have you developed an interactive and honest communication approach with your boss and colleagues? If not, please work on improving this aspect as well.
Regards,
V. Rangarajan.
From India, Pune
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As an HR practitioner in my consultancy business and previously in employment for 15 years, I would like to share the following:
In our careers, if we start in demanding environments with deadlines, bosses, and targets, please see it as an opportunity to learn and achieve the best results. If you expect your superior to be very understanding and accommodating in all respects, perhaps there is no effective management in the organization. In a career, one must deal with uncertainties. Without delving into the core of the issue, it is challenging for others to judge using a universally accepted yardstick to categorize someone as good, bad, or a demanding boss. It appears that you are in the early stages of your career. Change is constant in the career journey. Things will evolve, but certainly to find a balance over time.
Moreover, facing a demanding situation or boss will have a price tag in terms of compensation for you. If you feel you are receiving lower remuneration than you deserve, you have the option to address this issue with the HR department or higher-ups. Handle it with care. Take action and stay connected with destressing activities like meditation, sports, or any hobby that relaxes your mental state.
Most importantly, have you developed an interactive and honest communication approach with your boss and colleagues? If not, please work on improving this aspect as well.
Regards,
V. Rangarajan.
From India, Pune
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Its all Rubhish Expalining Boss.. When There is an Ego Problem Present you have to be Extraordinary. That’s the req. — SAM
From India, Vapi
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Hi,
Just want to say one thing... Every situation has its challenges, and it's important to try to shift your focus away from this issue. I know it's difficult, but you should make the effort. Remember how you have pushed yourself one step further despite any constraints that may have arisen. You may feel stressed due to your boss's behavior, but this could just be part of the corporate environment. Everyone goes through it now and then, and the key is to learn from it. Keep this in mind.
And remember, don't take everything to heart. Let it go in one ear and out the other... ;)
All the best. Stay happy and move past the tough situations. :)
From India, Pune
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Just want to say one thing... Every situation has its challenges, and it's important to try to shift your focus away from this issue. I know it's difficult, but you should make the effort. Remember how you have pushed yourself one step further despite any constraints that may have arisen. You may feel stressed due to your boss's behavior, but this could just be part of the corporate environment. Everyone goes through it now and then, and the key is to learn from it. Keep this in mind.
And remember, don't take everything to heart. Let it go in one ear and out the other... ;)
All the best. Stay happy and move past the tough situations. :)
From India, Pune
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If your boss is TOUGH, you already have a head start in your career. The pressure should cause you to buckle up. Know that the only way to impress that person is by your RESULTS! Make his/her objective your objective. Make his/her goal your goal. You may need to cut out the emotions from the relationship and stick with the BOTTOM LINE. And if you don't feel appreciated for exceeding expectations, give yourself your own tap on your back. WELCOME TO THE CORPORATE JUNGLE! NOTE: When you are a BOSS, don't repeat the cycle.
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